MEN TOO ARE VICTIMS: WE ALWAYS SPEAK LOUD ON FEMALE VICTIMS, WHO SPEAKS FOR THE EXPLOITED BOYCHILD?

There is this disturbing story trending about the young woman who was allegedly attacked with acid after rejecting a man she had been involved with.

Reports indicate that the man had been financially supporting her education, including paying for her college fees, under the understanding that they would eventually settle down together. However, after completing her studies, the woman reportedly walked away from the relationship, saying the man was not of her social class. What followed is both shocking and unacceptable. The man is alleged to have organised a gang to carry out an acid attack in revenge... A brutal act of violence and a clear case of taking the law into his own hands. Let’s be clear: Nothing, absolutely nothing, justifies such violence. This is criminal, inhumane and must be punished to the fullest extent of the law. But beyond the crime itself, this case raises uncomfortable questions that the society often avoids. Are there situations where men are misused in relationships, emotionally or financially, and then dumped? When such happens, is there any real avenue for justice for the boychild? Majority of men complain about being exploited in relationships, mocked, ignored, ridiculed or even blamed for betrayals by the women they invested their lives and hearts for. There is very little recognition of the emotional or financial manipulation when the victim is male. In contrast, if the same is meted against women, the whole world is on the neck of the male perpetrator... This often receives faster attention and stronger public outrage. We are dealing with a justice system and a society that listens selectively? This is where the real conversation begins. We must hold two truths at the same time: Violence is never a solution, under any circumstance. However, exploitation, manipulation or deception in relationships should not be normalised or ignored, regardless of who the victim is. Every time, men feel that there is no fair way to resolve grievances. Some of them choose the painful dangerous and unlawful paths. That does not excuse their actions, but it does expose gaps we cannot ignore. A mature and just society must do better. We need: Equal attention to all victims of abuse or exploitation regardless of gender Clear legal pathways to address financial and emotional deception (conmanship) A culture that discourages using people under the guise of love eg "kukula fare" Justice should not be gender biased. Accountability should not be selective because when fairness feels out of reach, the consequences can be devastating, as witnessed in this case. — Jaymo Wa Thika CEO, Thika Town Today – 3T / 3T TV