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Warning Subtle Signs Your Wife is Cheating On You.

Several surveys on infidelity have revealed that nearly a fifth of women admit to cheating on their current partners and up to a whopping 55% of married women engage in an extramarital sex at some time or another during their marriage.


Cheating, or infidelity, is one of the more challenging problems that can come up in a marriage. In most cases, even when you confront your partner with accusations of cheating, it will be denied or you will be made to feel like the ‘crazy one’. 

Having a cheating wife is a concern that haunts many men in relationships. Just the thought of your lady warming up to another man makes your skin crawl. 

A cheating wife might think she is sly but most of them show hints of their infidelity. One of the major signs you have a cheating wife is if you spot any changes in her behaviour especially if something about your wife's recent behaviour seems “off”.

The following are some indicators that you just have to pay attention to;-

1. Changes in Her Social Patterns.

If your wife begins to distance herself from the things you used to do together or from friends of yours whom she once got along with, it could be a sign of guilt. Cheating wives worry that your friends and family will be able to tell that something is happening even if you do not pick up on the clues.

It can also be a danger signs if all over sudden she seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.

If  she appears to dive into a hobby out of the blue, rather than talking about the hobby a lot or easing slowly into it or if she devotes an unusual amount of hours or efforts to it, she definitely be out to please someone she has fallen in love with.

2. She no longer gets angry.

She used to get angry if you didn't want to meet her for lunch or come out with her and her friends, but now everything you do is all right by her. She doesn't show any jealousy about you, no matter what you say. If you have not changed your behaviour that she used to nag you about and she becomes less critical of you, it could be a sign that she has become indifferent toward you, which could mean that she's getting emotional fulfillment from another source. Once upon a time, your every move had to be premeditated, but now all the small things you used to mess up aren't enraging her. This could be a good thing, but it should make you wonder why she no longer cares.

A cheating wife can pay a lot of attention to you as a way to ease her guilty conscience. If she devotes more attention to you when the two of you are together, she can momentarily make herself feel better about what she does when you aren't around.

3. She now comes home late.

She used to arrive home by 6 p.m. to help with dinner, baths and bedtime? When someone stops coming home at the regular time, on a regular basis, when a schedule changes and there’s no comment about why or what she is doing differently, be wary. It may be because she is cheating on you.

Some people will offer an excuse for their change in routine—like going to the gym late because it’s less crowded (and because you are less likely to question the “post-workout shower”).

If your wife disappears for hours at a time and simply claims to have been shopping, show an interest in what stores she visited, or what things she looked at, especially if she returns home empty handed. Many women love to discuss shopping trips, so if you get an elusive response, it may be an indicator that she was spending time elsewhere.

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4. Obsessed with self.

The longer a couple stays married, the more both spouses tend to let themselves go. If your wife suddenly dyes her hair and spruces herself up, she might be trying to make herself look good for someone new. Women usually try to look their absolute bests at the start of a new relationship, so if your wife is suddenly making considerably more effort in terms of her appearance, it stands to reason that there might be a new relationship in her life.

If she becomes too much obsessed with herself, eg their viewing herself in the mirror all the time, might be a sign that he is cheating on you. Your partner might be looking out for someone and for that reason she wants to ensure that she looks attractive.

5. Watch out for shopping sprees. 

Take a good look at what she brings home in her shopping bags. If she buys new clothes in excess, she might be trying to show them off to someone—especially if those clothes are revealing or if she buys more lingerie. A big sign can be if your wife is buying sexy lingerie but not wearing them in your bedroom, or if she is buying attractive clothes but never wearing them in front of you.

6. She's no longer as needy.

If she was never able to go shopping, exercise or cross the street alone, and she suddenly doesn't need your company, it may mean that someone else is filling your shoes. It's possible that she just needs time to herself, but if she's unusually independent when she used to be overly needy, it may signal that she's just no longer as needy... of you.

7. Pay attention if she starts working out at the gym. 

If your wife takes a sudden interest in shaping up even though she never showed much desire to do so before, she might be trying to make her body look more appealing to a new guy in her life.

8. Take note of how often she showers ‘at the gym’.

If you rarely see her shower at home anymore and she frequently claims to have showered at the gym, there is some chance that she might be showering at another guy's place and using the gym shower as a cover.

A cheating wife will often shower before she greets you at home to cover the scent of the other man. Furthermore, most spouses get accustomed to the way their counterparts smell. If your wife smells “off” or like a brand of men's cologne you do not use, she might be in close contact with another man.

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9. If she allover sudden gets too cool about the cell phone.

Most men who suspect their wives are having an affair will immediately ask to see their phone to scroll through texts and incoming/outgoing calls or secretly snoop through the phone. Don’t be fooled if she lets you. If she gives you full access, it might be a sign that she may have a second phone.

Likewise, if she has never had a password on her phone because their child loved accessing the fun apps and all of a sudden that changed, be warned. Cheating wives always decline to reveal their phone passwords and will always type it in privately. That is a red flag alert! By not telling you the code, your spouse may be admitting to a secret of some sort.

If she suddenly starts demanding privacy i.e. will call or text secretly when you are not watching, she is definitely hiding something from you.

Another red alert is when the message inbox, call logs or WhatsApp chat are ever empty. This is a 
sign that they have erased any suspicious texts that could betray them.

10. Your marriage has turned sexless.

If your partner is cheating, she might show less interest towards you sexually and in daily routine. Not wanting to have sex anymore—or a lot less than usual—can mean many things, including that she has been ‘well catered for’ elsewhere.

Essentially if your partner is pulling away from you, this could also be because she is focused on an upsetting job situation, financial stress, or a family health issue, but whatever the reason, you must bring it up soon, with warmth and tact. “Let her know that you noticed a difference and try to rekindle with daily hugs, warm smiles, a touch on the back and, of course, pursue sex. See if this opens the door to a warm heartfelt conversation.

11. Starts accusing you.

If your wife has becoming even more critical of your behaviour than usual, she might be looking for ways to justify the affair to herself. If she suddenly acts as though nothing you do is right in her eyes, there are considerable problems in your relationship, even if your wife is not cheating on you.

She will start accusing you for small things, in order to overcome the guilt of cheating, so that the matter revolves around you. When you do ask her questions, she turns the tables on you. The former chatterbox's batteries have run out, and when you ask her how her night was, mum's the only word. It's now all about you, you, you, rather than “I did this” and “I went here last night”.

12. Surprising you with unexpected gifts.

Surprising you with unexpected gifts, is the best way to overcome cheating guilt. Cheating partner often does this to make up for her affair. A “just because” new gift—completely unrelated to a birthday, anniversary, or work promotion—could be a clue that your partner is feeling guilty about something and trying to compensate.

Have a direct conversation by saying something like: “It's only been in the last few months that you are bringing me surprise presents. While this is thoughtful, I am wondering if something led you to start doing this.” See what she says and watch how she acts. Also, look for other clues, like if she cancels plans and those long-stem roses are some sort of consolation prize.

If suddenly she is always complimenting you, asking you to go out, giving you “I love you” cards for no reason whatsoever, and even offering to wash your car and watch the boxing match with you. While these gestures are more than sweet, it's this kind of overcompensating behaviour that can make one suspicious. If she's bombarding you with niceties, it might be nice to know what's really going on.

13. Spending more time on phone/computer:

This might be a sign that she might actually be talking/chatting with someone all the time. If your wife suddenly spends more time talking on the phone or texting, though, or if she hangs up as soon as you enter the room or if she leaves the room to take them or quickly hangs up when you walk in, these habits could suggest that she's talking to someone new in her life whom she does not want you to know about.

You should also pay attention to other changes in her calling habits, including the frequency of calls, time of day, and tone of voice she uses

14. She has a special Facebook/WhatsApp friend.

Be on the lookout for those surprise messages on their social media accounts, eg a message from a man that reads, “I can’t stop thinking about you baby.” “When will I see you again?”

Face it: Social media friends don’t message like that. They congratulate each other on the birth of a new baby or a cool vacation photo. When the conversation gets racy, there’s a problem. Most cheaters these days are caught via text or on social media.

When men snoop on a woman, or accidentally finds something, it’s often what they suspected. There could be incriminating photos, texts, or a call history that would prove to be evidence of an affair.

15. She is suddenly fond of going out with “the girls”.

If she suddenly starts spending considerably more time running with social circles that don't include you, this could be another bad sign. Even if she claims to be hanging out with her female friends, this might not actually be the case.

An occasional girls-night-out can be both normal and healthy, so you do not need to worry if these nights are fairly infrequent. If your wife puts these nights above her relationship with you, if her story changes about who she goes with and where she goes, or if you are unable to get in touch with your wife while she's out, that’s a red flag my brother.

Even if your wife is genuinely meeting with other female friends, there is some chance that she is using them as emotional support and confiding to them about personal issues she may not talk to you about. This might not be a sign that she's cheating, but it is a sign that there are problems in your marriage.

If she tells you she is going somewhere and you suspect she is heading out to meet another man, offer to go with her. If she “changes her mind” and decides not to go, it could be a sign that she was indeed trying to get out alone to go spend time with someone else.

16. Listen carefully if she starts talking about a new friend. 

Women generally feel a stronger need to talk about new and exciting things happening in their lives, even if they need to keep the news a secret. If she starts talking about a new friend, that new friend might be more to her than she intends to let on.

Keep in mind that your wife might give you a fake name to throw you off. If she talks a lot about her new friend ‘Joana’, she might actually be describing her new friend ‘John’, and providing you with a woman's name just to avoid raising your suspicions.

17. Giving vague details.

She might tell you so many lies so that the details turn out to be vague, it is a clear sign you are being lied to. As a general rule, if your wife suddenly begins sharing fewer details about her day and her thoughts, she might be hiding something or getting the emotional support she needs from another source. Women are rarely secretive unless they have a good reason to be. 

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